I've had a busy few days. "B" came to birth her fourth baby. She had two epidural births, one natural birth and now wanted a home birth, but lived too far from a hospital for safety. She choose to birth in my home, in my "birt bed and breakfast". Well, she came with her husband and good friend, who also had homebirths. She looked like she was in heavy labor, and I was surprized to find only two centimeters. An hour later, she was four , and then she was progressing quickly. She made a lot of noise, needed massage and enjoyed yelling but didn't want to move much, and stayed mainly on her side. I filled the jacuzzi but she just didn't feel like moving to get up and into the water. Soon she was pushing. Wow, was she wild--thrashing and kicking and yelling. That was her way of birthing. After a few pushes, the baby was out and she was glowing and so happy and smiling. We were all a bit shocked at her force and noise, but she was overjoyed and had a great birth experience. This was the way she needed to birth! Then yesterday another lady came to birth her third baby. I had birthed her second child in Misgav Ledach's birthing rooms a few years ago. They live in Gush Etsion also too far from hospital so she used my facilities. She looked quite calm and relaxed. She was also only 3 centimeters and had a thick cervix. I left her and her man to do their thing together. He is very supportive and they work great together. He was born at home himself and was present for his siblings home birth in the U.S. and his father was a midwife in the U.S. so he was a natural! As the labor progressed, slowly but steadily, she moaned softly, and tried many positions. Then at 5 centimeters got in the jacuzzi and about 2 hours later, very calmly pushed the baby out into the water. It was so beautiful and serene, and then she was also glowing and had such a ;positive experience. So--the lesson here is that women need to birth in their own individual way and need the space and freedom to discover what is right for them. The "wild woman" doesn't have a worse experience than the "calm woman", and both births are wonderful, and both ways can be positive as long as it is right for you. There is no correct way to birth. The important thing is to be free to discover your way. Ilana Shemesh
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