Combining the feminine orgasm in the childbirth process

By: Shiraz Ariel Drori- Birth coach – Israel © 2005

Dear ladies,

   I wish to introduce you to a productive and interesting method that is able to help you during a crucial period in your life – the time of childbirth.

    I am a mother of three children. All three were born in a hospitals and I wish to share with you the special method I developed to deal with the process of childbirth.

   During my first pregnancy, I became aware to the fact that there is a strong connection between the female orgasm and the womb. This fact is well known in the medical world and so it is advised women in high risk pregnancies to avoid experiencing orgasms in order to prevent uterine contractions which could induce premature labor. What can be inferred from this is that a very strong relation exists between the uterus and the female orgasm, and that this relation might be helpful concerning the birth process itself.

  When a woman is already in labor, it is recommended and even preferred that she will know how to help her body do what nature intended it to do and that is to facilitate the passage of the baby to the outside world. Today you receive one more tool you can use.

   Today there are many available methods to deal with the birth process but it is yet not possible to ignore the fact that the percentage of Caesarean operations, vacuum deliveries and many other interventions is still very high. Yet in contrast there is an increase in the number of women wishing to give birth in a natural way without interventions as much as possible.  These women have a large variety of methods available to them which I will not specify for they are familiar (oil massage, Shiatsu, Acupuncture and many more) I will only add my method so it may help you or be passed on to a friend who is about to give birth.

The powerful orgasm

   The female orgasm is a subject discussed frequently but usually not fully understood. Many women are not aware of this experience and do not know how to reach and realize this experience even after hearing so much about its existence. Even in our modern days it is still difficult to openly discuss the subject. In contrast many women do know and enjoy the orgasm experience and enjoy there sexuality. So how all this is connected to the childbirth process?  In the different seminars available today, masturbation and sexual intercourse during contractions are discussed occasionally and the relation between the orgasm and the womb is already known, but I find it important to mention the fact that women do not receive any clear and profound explanation of the orgasm itself as a helping tool, and since the thought of full sexual intercourse may deter many women I will emphasize that pleasuring the woman is enough …. (An additional task for the man during childbirth …J)

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How is it possible?

   When a woman becomes aware to the fact she is experiencing labor, she will in most cases, not suffer from pain. She will have a mild contractions occurring about each 10 minutes or so (in a “text book” normal delivery…) during this period she is able to do several things and most women do not even realize that the process of the birth had begun! According to my method during this time the woman needs to concentrate on the fact that the cervix is beginning to dilate and we can help it in this process by concentrating on opening circles and circular motions from the center outwards, in any shape or form (guided imagining), combining and stimulating all the cartilage muscles of the body will help the opening to occur. By massaging these muscles a sexual arousal can be developed (massaging the nipples, deep kissing, stimulating the clitoris and rectum area etc.) to all these we can ad masturbation in order to reach orgasm. (We can witness that all those actions related to sex in day-to-day life could help the women during her labor).  The best time to do that is when contractions are more frequent and arrive each 7 – 8 minutes:  Oil can be very helpful for the first stimulation and after that you can always use more.   It is important to know that when a women experience an orgasm, her body releases two hormones: Oxytocin which is responsible for uterine contractions and endorphin which is known as a natural analgesic of the body (That is two in the price of oneJ) A substance which helps the womb contract and a substance which eases the pain involved in the process.

  A woman that will be able to do this will actually be using a natural resource of her body, helping it through the process of giving birth. It is important to mention that doing it at the first stage of birth will make it easier to do. (More time between contractions).

   Even if you don’t reach full orgasm, the above mentioned hormones are still produced and it is important not to despair since as the body begins a process of sexual arousal the contractions, which will still occur each seven or eight minutes, will hardly be felt! But they will carry their role out!

   It should be mentioned that when the childbirth process begins, these two hormones are released with no regard to the presence of an orgasm. So if we know that an orgasm creates a large quantity of these two hormones, shouldn’t we use it? Or simply enjoy it?

  You probably wonder how can that be done in a hospital, with staff coming in and out, so I will remind you that it is your right to ask for privacy and if you and your fetus are ok, you will get plenty or privacy.  What we actually do is to prepare our body ahead of time to the extreme experience that awaits us.

   I wish to mention that the natural process of giving birth does involve pain which seems sometimes as unbearable (at the stage when the dilation is very advanced and the contractions very frequent) but I believe that if the period of the pick of the pain is shortened the whole experience can be viewed differently and much less traumatically.

    The amazing flexibility

 You should know that when there is a strong sexual arousal and mostly after an orgasm, the entire vagina is very flexible and soft which can help avoiding cuts and raptures to the perineum as the baby proceeds out to the world.   If you wish to feel this remarkable flexibility pre labor, you can try doing a perineum massage before and after orgasm, you will be amazed by the flexibility of your perineum after the orgasm.   

   I have met Dr’ Wagner on the subject (When he arrived to Israel during his tour of lectures on the subject of softening the childbirth experience in hospitals), he mentioned that this method is in no way dangerous and he also mentioned an exciting fact that there are women who report of a spontaneous sexual arousal and reaching an orgasm during the contractions. It is then obvious that it is possible to combine our sexual system during labor. Dr. Wagner encouraged me to spread this idea and mentioned that he believes it is possible to use this method to help the woman as she gives birth.

    On 2007 a special documentary is about to be realest, it's called "orgasmic birth" the movie explore the amazing act of the body in natural labors. Visit the website

 www.orgasmicbirth.com     

A few last words

The benefits of the female orgasm during birth are very simple:

·        Provides something to focus on.

·        Releases large quantity of a natural inducer and pain reliever .(Oxytocin & Endorphin)

·        High flexibility to the perineum (preventing cuts and helps with recovery)

   Today I am asking you to change your view of orgasm as an intimate part and rather view it as a purely productive physical process that can help you throe birth.

    I believe we have the opportunity to be active during the labor process and we can use all the information we have and take it a step forward. So, if we offer a woman the knowledge that she can use her sexuality and bring her body to an orgasm during the first stage of the birth, we teach her how to use her own natural tool

                                  Feel free to pass the massage to all pregnant women.

A little about myself:

40; married and a mother of three wonderful kids.

For 15 years I have worked in the field of infancy and kindergarten education and I have guided many mothers in their dealing with parenthood difficulties and raising children. After my first son was born I became aware of the need in preparing for childbirth and started practicing aiding women before and after birth, I have intimacy seminars for women in regard to childbirth and sexuality and today I conduct private sessions and women gatherings.

   When I begun exploring the exiting connection of sexuality and birth, there were no recourse at all, and I realized that it is my duty to share this amazing fact with the world.

Shiraz Ariel Drori –Birth coach – Israel

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