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26/4/2005 08:38
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Um_Netah
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Dear Sari
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It is not quite the same thing, but I got pregnant (not by mistake) because I realized that I was getting 'old' and that I didn't want to die without decendants. Not very romantic. My husbant didn't care one way or the other. I didn't have any warm, 'motherly' thoughts or fantasies. (But I also didn't have fears). I wasn't thinking about the baby and was not looking actively forwards to motherhood (I didn't buy anything for the baby until almost the last moment). x
Todey ... I am a very happy mom, and trying to conceive a second child. Motherhood changed me a great deal and reached depths in me that I didn't know existed. x
I personally think that people who don't want children, shouldn't have them. But I also believe that if the stars are aligned right, then nothing can prevent a child from being born. (heh, I don't even believe in astrology, but you get what I mean). x
I also don't think that just you being afraid of the future is a good reason for abortion. Howevere, because from your words it appears that your husband wants this child very much, then let him take the major part of parenthood until you 'get used' to it. (and tell him you expect that, too, so there won't be any misunderstanding) x
Oh, and go read Ehud Manor's lyrics to 'This is my second childhood (Zo Yalduti Hashnia) x
Good luck! x
Talila
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