3/4/2004 20:42
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Ilana Shemesh, natural midwife
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Wish I could help you....
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Dear Naama, Do what your heart tells you. Don't worry about pleasing people. It's also not a competitive sport. I've had a few women that decided they wanted the hospital and pain medication when they were in labor, and went to the hospital. There's no shame. If it will make you feel better, as I sense that you want to "please" , then tell people that you will try for a homebirth but may choose to go to hospital. There are no guarantees anywhere. I know lots of people that decide on natural birth in hospital and then take the monitor, epidural, and the whole hospital business. Most of them feel badly and then do a homebirth next time. They blame the hospital for their inability to say "no thankyou" to all these procedures. Others will feel that "lucky that I didn't do a homebirth because I could never have handled the pain." What I can tell you is that over 95% of my clients who had homebirths will choose a second homebirth. Some who don't it is because of financial reasons. The great majority had great experiences, despite the pain. And yes, there is a lot of pain but most women can handle it if they accept that it is a healthy pain and a part of the birth process. I recommend you meeting with Sarit Zeltzer, and doing her workshop on emotional and spiritual strengthening for homebirth. Her numbers are in the back of my book, under childbirth preparation. Please ask me any questions that are not answered in my book. I am more than happy to answer them either on this forum or personally by e-mail or phone. Also discuss all these issues and questions with your midwife. It's not easy to do something out of the ordinary, but make sure that you won't be sorry for going along with the crowd, since you can't redo your birth. Also it is very normal to have second thoughts and worries. I remember also feeling that way before my homebirth, and thinking how embarassing it would be for me if I couldn't take the pain and showed up at the hospital. There comes a time when you just have to say "screw them" I'll do what's good for me and that's that!! As far as safety, birth is as safe as life gets. No guarantees ever. Things happen in hospital as well as at home, just they don't make the headlines. Trust your body, trust nature, do down deep and find those inner feminine strenths. We all have them.
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